Dating while DivorcING - is it really so bad?

It sounds like you're doing things the right way - slowly and maturely. A friendship is the best way to start a romantic relationship, and I applaud you guys in the way you're handling your friendship through your divorce. Since you feel like you're damaged goods as you say, I think you're wise to stay on this course of taking things slowly so that you can sort out your feelings and not rush into another commitment too quickly. Do you think you feel like you shouldn't pursue her b/c your divorce isn't final yet? It sounds like the two of you have great communication, and as long as you let her know that you're still in the process of "sorting" your emotions and want to take your time, you'll be fine. Good luck!